Thirsty or Nah?

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Startled…I turned around because I could feel someone standing extremely close to me at the grocery store’s self checkout counter. I was slightly confused as to whether or not the guy, who was placing items on my teeny-weeny counter space, was an employee of the grocery store.  I figured that had to be the reason as to why he was at my self-checkout station, while I was checking out by myself.

Of course I was wrong.

This dapper fellow had questions for me…

Him:  What do y’all do around here on Sundays?

Me: (Still very confused as to why he’d invaded my space…) Go to church, brunch, or something.

He Introduces himself and tells me that he’s in town for a few days. 

Me: Where are you from?

Him: I’m staying at the Crowne Plaza.

Me: (Thinking: what a Freudian slip)  That’s not what I asked you, where are you from?

Him: Oh, Mississippi.

Thankfully, my groceries were scanned and paid for at this point which gave me a smooth exit. 

Me: Okay, cool. Well,  enjoy your time here.

Him: Well, can I have your number?

Me: I don’t think I will be of much assistance to you over the next three days, but I hope you enjoy your stay.

Now….the question. Thirsty or Nah?

Just in case—you are lost. I am not referring to dehydration. I am referring to the slang usage of the word.  One definition from Urban Dictionary is “to be overly/unnecessarily eager for something.”

So, I am tempted to say yes he was thirsty, as evidenced by his line cutting, space invading, being much too close to my methods of payment, and his Freudian slip. However, I am going to say Nah.

I was not too pleased with my interaction with him, mostly because I wasn’t sure if he was trying to pursue female companionship or obtain data for credit card fraud (just being honest). Though, I cannot knock the brother for trying. When I reflect on the situation, I admire the confidence that it takes to walk across a room to a complete stranger, spark up a conversation, and attempt to obtain contact information. There were many men in the grocery store that day; the other ones eyed me in the aisles but he was the only one that made a true attempt. So I do applaud him for that.

Many times women can be so hypocritical. One second a woman will be in an uproar because guys in our generations “aren’t assertive” and because she “never meets any new men.” Though often times, these same women are quick to dismiss a man with a look of disdain when approached.

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As if she can’t believe that he had the audacity to try to interact with her fine self.

 What?!

This is my PSA to women. Don’t make it so hard for these men. When a man approaches you and you are not interested recognize that your lack of interest does not make him less human. Acknowledge his effort; don’t snarl at the poor fellow…Be Nice. Pity dates don’t benefit anyone, so I don’t recommend exchanging contact info if you’re not interested but would it be that difficult to be cordial during the initial interaction?

What are your thoughts ladies/gentlemen? Leave your comments!

It’s Valentine’s Day :) :(

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Today is one of those days where I sometimes feel like I have to walk on eggshells around certain people. For those that are somewhere in between  blossoming a new relationship and celebrating 40 strong years of marriage, today is a good day! It’s a Hallmark holiday…I get it, I get it. Though, in the midst of all of the candy and cards, today still serves as a great opportunity to remind people to appreciate the special people in their lives, to remember why they fell in love in the first place, and at the very least to have a fantastic night and create a new memory.

However, on the other side of the spectrum there are many people hurting today. For those that struggle with not having companionship, of all the 365 days, this one is the absolute worst. Some of you have never experienced the joys of sharing this day with someone and others are dealing with the memories of celebrating this day with a love that is now estranged. That hurts and the pain is real. Being a little unenthusiastic about the day doesn’t make you lonely, or godless; it makes you human. Your time is coming lovee, #waitonit. In the meantime practice living a life that will allow you to be the best mate that you can be. Practice being patient, kind, selfless, caring and supportive to your friends, co-workers, family members and strangers. This could very well be your season of preparation. Be anxious for nothing…

Another reason not to fret is because….Right here, right now, I am sharing 8 (last-minute) ideas on how you can celebrate this day, whether you are in a relationship OR not.

4 Ways to Celebrate

1) Do something that you’ve been saying that you’ve wanted to do. This could include checking out that new restaurant that opened up in town, treating yourself to a professional massage, take a walk near the lake, get your haircut, or….(fill in the blank).

2) Have dinner with your other single friends. Share with one another what you “love” about each other.

3) Send someone you love (like your siblings, parents, or friends) an e-card. The act of doing something nice for another person usually makes one feel better about themselves. You might also consider wishing a  “Happy Valentine’s Day” to the married couple whose relationship inspires you.  Reflect on their relationship and what behaviors and traits they’ve modeled. Ideally this should remind you of why settling is not an option and make you thankful that you have this time to develop in some areas. :)

4) (I bet you didn’t see this coming). Review your bucket list and life goals. If you don’t have a list, make one TODAY. People who write down there goals are far more successful than people who don’t…Marriage is on my list, but trust me there are so many others on there too! Valentine’s Day is one day out of the year. What dream have you neglected? What to-do item is still pending? Today is just as good as a day as any to get started. Also, how rewarding is it to spend Valentine’s day pursuing one of your dreams, one of your passions, or one of your desires?

4 Ways to Celebrate with your mate 

1) Exchange hand-written love letters and read them to each other aloud.

2) Reveal your inner child. Fight the urge to be cliche. Go to the park, play tag, play hide-n-seek or  shoot some hoops. Make it a competition…loser cooks dinner.

3)  Create a boyfriend tag/husband tag video. This will be a nice stroll down memory lane for you two.  Make sure you share it with me, I’d love to see it!  (If you don’t know what that is, go to Youtube and search “boyfriend tag.” There are tons of videos. You can also search google “boyfriend tag” to locate the questions.

4) Carve both your first initials in a tree. However, this might be illegal. If it is, I encourage you to NOT do it, but instead try going to a place with a great view of you city. Take pictures and soak in the moment.

That’s all I got! Let me know what ideas you have planned or even what haven’t you done but would like to?

Peace Lovee. Enjoy your day.